I have felt this more times than I care to admit.
Attraction is the primary reason a relationship is formed.
The moment we are attracted to someone, we start to see other aspects too. But all attractions are not love.
Similarly, if the person we are getting attracted towards might get attracted to us too but the frequency or rather the reasons for attraction might be completely different. In the beginning, it might seem they are all the same but this not how the reality works.
Attraction blinds us, makes us biased.
This is why we tend to look at the positive sides of our person of interest ignoring the darker negative ones. We might really get immensely attracted towards the person and develop the feeling of love but the other person might get attracted towards us out of infatuation or even lust.
In the worst case, they might fake to take our advantage. Once this attraction is established between two people, by any means, love settles down and then comes the question of commitment, loyalty, etc. But these attractions need to be genuine. We are not mind readers. There are innumerable times we might get attracted to a person for all the wrong reasons.
We all have problems. But a relationship can never be based just on saving someone or helping someone. The fire-fighters, doctors, nurses, army men, security guards and all of us are doing this every day. Does this mean we are in a relationship with everyone?
In a relationship, you should support your partner but that should also be reciprocated.
Having empathy on the person, you cannot get yourself drained. You think that your love interest needs your help but the reality is, your love interest is just using you.
If someone helps you, you need to acknowledge that, reciprocate that. We all need a second chance. You love interest or your partner made a mistake once and apologized. But if this keeps on happening in cycles, then you should stop nurturing your love or attraction towards them.
You cannot change the person unless they want to change themselves. Thinking that you will change that person and make them a better human being is an act of foolishness. That is not going to happen. If the reason you still love your partner because they make you feel guilty of your actions, blame you for the misunderstandings, always telling you that the relationship will not work out because of you, then it is not love.
Your partner has made you lose your self-confidence. You might make mistakes but everything is not fault and your partner is not a sage either.
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. Pushing yourself to be someone you’re not set up to be is not easy. Sometimes in life, we find ourselves in situations that require us to adapt, to be someone we aren’t. Similarly, if the person we are getting attracted towards might get attracted to us too but the frequency or rather the reasons for attraction might be completely different.
In the beginning, it might seem they are all the same but this not how the reality works. Loving someone is hard.
Loving your best friend more than a friend is even harder. If you struggle to differentiate between friend love and romantic love, you probably shouldn't be with this person. Sometimes we love people because we so desperately want to be with them.
If we are talking about the kind of consistent bullying that goes on for a few years in school, you shouldn’t do it because you are breaking down a person so that they will only live a half-life for the rest of their life.
Don’t kid yourself that they are “OK” as adults just because they are still alive.